Today I was talking to a younger friend about dating. Or not dating I guess. (Don't worry I don't think dating is a sin or anything.) I just feel like God doesn't want me to date or be in any kind of a romantic relationship until He tells me who and when.
I made the commitment not to date at 14 and so I've never had a boyfriend. Some people have said that this will leave me unsure of how to relate to guys and unsure of what I want in a husband. Actually, at 20 I think it's done the opposite.
Not dating has kept the pressure off my friendships allowing more depth and trust with both guys and girls. Being able to just be friends with guys worry free has allowed me to see more of who they really are. This would include annoying boy stuff that you (hopefully) would never see on a date. (I guess to be fair I must say that they've seen me be annoying too!) It's allowed me to learn how to deal with the way God designed us to think differently without the added emotion of a romantic relationship. I've been able to ask my closer guy friends questions about how guys think, and if it annoys them when girls do this, and if they generally care about stuff like that. It's good to be able to know if something I said hurt them, or if they honestly didn't really think about it.
My guy friends have done an awesome job being gentlemen. They've taught me to expect a certain level of respect. I've also seen in all of them godly character qualities that I admire. I hope I've done as good a job of being a lady, respecting them, and showing godly character.
So anyway, though there is no one catching my attention as so many people ask me these days now that I'm 20, I don't think I'll be as unprepared as some thought. For now, my heart's only for God.
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Hey Jennifer...I found your blog from another Jennifer's site! :-p Well...amen. I'm an 18 year old college student...a GUY...and I share the same view. There was always the pressure but I never have dated. Ever. You beautifully summed up my reasons. I won't start dating until I think it's a potential lifelong candidate. I don't buy this crap (sorry er umm..baloney) about I shall be inexperienced, etc...which you explained so awesomely. Stay strong and God bless!
Wow, thanks for the comment! I don't get many, it's good to know someone out there actually reads this. Thanks.
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